Are you a “vanilla” lover who has gotten bored beneath the sheets of prudence and traditional intimacy? Are you game to paint your life behind the bedroom door fifty shades more colorful? If so, veer away from the over-trodden path and take a detour through the kinky BDSM road now!
BDSM is an expression of a person’s sexuality. It involves bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism—thus the initialism. It also involves role-playing and a cornucopia of fantasies, such as hot and heavy encounters between royalty and subject, master and slave, guard and prisoner, doctor and nurse, teacher and student, captor and hostage.
The practice is absolutely nowhere near mainstream. But it is fast gaining popularity, with adults finding it in themselves to defy convention. And this is not even because Lady Gaga seems to show that anyone can learn the BDSM ropes quite easily.
BDSM for Beginners
If you are a newbie in the BDSM arena but are willing to be a student who can be taught quickly, find an über-eager teacher. In case you are too shy to look for someone in physical settings, search online.
There are plenty of BDSM dating websites and apps that specifically cater to adults with kinks, fetishes, and fantasies. These can recommend adults near you who are ready for your private education.
Before joining digital communities, check out some of the basic BDSM terms and concepts:
In dominance-submission intimacies, blindfolding allows the “dom” to control the “sub” and the sub to place his or her full trust in the dom. Here, the dominant partner will awaken the submissive partner’s senses, using body parts (like lips and fingers) or inanimate objects (like wine and feathers) that emit arousing smells or evoke titillating feelings.
The suspense teases the sub and drives him or her to the edge of orgasm. Meanwhile, the thrill of watching the sub go wet and wild will make the dom want to climax.
In bondage-discipline intimacies, restraining can be a way to suppress freedom in erotic role plays and sexual fantasies. One partner lords over the other and uses restraints, such as a scarf, a necktie, or a pair of toy handcuffs. The satisfaction lies in limiting the movement, stimulating the need to escape, and finally reaching liberation itself.
If you want to try these restraints, exercise care and caution. Wearing them too tight can keep the blood from circulating.